How to Show Support for Your Pregnant Partner
Becoming pregnant and having a baby is a transformational time for a woman. In the space of less than a year, they will be creating a new human! During pregnancy, the more support they receive emotionally, medically, physically, and spiritually will make a difference in how they view pregnancy.
How Can You Help?
Even if you aren’t physically the one carrying the baby, this is an amazing time in your life as well. Being all-in and there for your partner is the absolute best thing you can do for them.
Even if you don’t see the difference between the “Sunshine Yellow” and the “Duckling Yellow” paint they have picked out for the baby’s room, your excitement in this journey matters to them. The more invested you are in the pregnancy, the easier it will be for you to bond with the amazing human you’re going to meet soon!
From the moment it is confirmed that your partner is pregnant, then you are too! Speaking to people about the pregnancy as if you are a part of it will make your partner feel more connected to you. From announcing the pregnancy to going to prenatal appointments, make sure you communicate that you are as much of a part of the process as the mama to be is.
Understanding the Pregnancy Process
During pregnancy, your partner is going to undergo many emotional and physical changes, and some of them are not very pleasant. If this is their first child, they may be overwhelmed and not really understand why they are feeling the way they are.
Hormones play a huge role in this, and every single woman reacts differently to the cocktail of hormones their body serves up!
Be a supportive partner by educating yourself on the stages of pregnancy so you understand what might happen at each stage and be there to gently remind the mama to be that you are there for them even when things seem uncertain.
Support can be as little as a hug when they need it, or a trip to the store for ice cream at 11 PM. These bonding moments during pregnancy can be a touchstone for them to hold on to during labor and in the early days of parenting.
Bonding as a team is so important during pregnancy because when that baby comes home, your entire definition of family will change!
During this time you may be feeling worried about your new role and how it will change your life. This is normal, and being able to express that to your partner is important for both of you.
Common worries are often finances, how to take care of the baby, worrying about how your relationship will look after the baby arrives.
Taking time to discuss your concerns together will help you both feel like you are “in this together”, and will provide a touchstone for you to both to come back to when things seem overwhelming.
- Be Proactive, Not Reactive: Reacting to situations puts you behind the 8-ball, but being proactive puts you in the driver’s seat. If you are unsure, ask “How can I help? What can I do to help?”.
- If All Else Fails, Be Present: Showing up for your partner wins half the battle. It shows physical and emotional support for your partner.
Make Time for the Two of You
Making sure you spend some time as a couple during the pregnancy can be a big boost to a pregnant mama who might not be feeling the best physically. Scheduling a date night, going to get pedicures together, or encouraging them to pick out a cute maternity dress to wear to go to dinner together can be a big boost.
It can be very overwhelming for women when they become pregnant because they may be adjusting to seeing themselves as a mother figure. Reminders that the relationship between the two is still a priority for you can be a wonderful gift for them and you!
Congratulations on your pregnancy!